Now that all the festivities are finished and the last mince pie eaten, many parents and parents-to-be start to think about the year ahead and our plans, goals and hopes
Every January, it seems you can’t escape messages about getting fit, eating healthily, changing jobs or making some other life-changing resolutions. Here we look at some of the positive plans parents and parents-to-be might be thinking about at this time of year…
Whether you’re pregnant, or you already have a little one, it’s a good time of year to think about taking care of yourself. If you’re expecting, that could mean working on your pelvic floor muscles or starting a low-impact exercise class. You may also want to think about small changes you can make, like getting to bed earlier in the evenings or adjusting your diet. If you have a baby, you could try simple things like getting out for walks that could help improve both you and your baby’s mood or trying out a postnatal exercise class.
After the expense of Christmas, it can be helpful to review your finances to see if there’s anywhere you can save money. Think about benefits you might be entitled to, like Child Benefit, Child Tax Credits or Working Tax Credits. You could also consider having a clear out and selling any unwanted items at an NCT Nearly New Sale or on eBay to make a few extra pounds.
Many parents say their resolution is to spend more time together, doing fun things as a family away from the distractions of home, work or phones. Whether that’s walks in the woods, splashing around in the swimming pool, afternoons at the park, trips to the beach, playdates with friends, crafting activities or reading together – these things don’t have to break the bank. And, more importantly, they’re all great opportunities to bond and appreciate your little one while they’re still little.
Looking after a little one all day can be exhausting and unrelenting – but it can help to have some time out for yourself. If there’s an activity you’ve always wanted to try, why not look for classes in your local area? Or it could be as simple as making sure you meet friends for dinner regularly or watch a film with your partner once a week. All of these things can help you feel like you’ve had a break and you’re ready to face the ups and downs of parenthood again.
It can be incredibly tricky to get the right work/life balance when you become a parent. You and your partner may want to think about your jobs and family life and consider whether it’s possible to make any changes, such as reducing your hours if finances permit or applying for flexible working. Obviously there’s lots to weigh up, like childcare options, costs and career prospects for you both, but open and honest discussions can help you find a plan that works for all the family.
If you’re expecting a baby, it can help you feel more confident and in control if you feel prepared for labour, birth and the early days with a newborn. You might want to consider an NCT antenatal course and also read about your options for the birth and beyond.
Feeling armed and able to handle emergencies if they arise is incredibly important, so why not make it your resolution to take a Baby First Aid course? We run them in partnership with the British Red Cross and they teach essentials like CPR, as well as how to handle choking, burns and high temperatures. The courses cover first aid for babies and children up to age 12 and they last 2.5 hours. You’re welcome to bring babies in arms with you. You really could save a life by learning these skills.
Many parents say that volunteering has given them back their confidence, helped them develop new skills, provided them with lots of new friends – and that they feel good knowing they’re helping other people. NCT has lots of opportunities for volunteers, no matter how much or how little time you have to spare. Sign up today and see what a difference you can make.
Being pregnant or having a new baby can be daunting, overwhelming and lonely at times, but you’re not on your own. It’s important to remember there are so many other people in the same boat and it can help to share stories and support each other through the ups and downs. You can make friends through your local NCT branch, pop along to a Bumps and Babies group or look at other baby activities in your local area. Having friends you can message in the middle of the night, or someone to have a cup of coffee with, can make all the difference as you get to grips with parenthood.
Many mums and dads are tempted to struggle through the tough times and never ask for a little help. It’s important to remember there is support out there and talking about how you’re feeling and sharing any concerns can make a huge difference. We have a fantastic helpline with volunteers who are ready to listen and plenty of resources available online. And don’t be afraid to ask for medical help if you are struggling emotionally – your GP will be able to point you in the right direction.
Parenting can be hugely challenging. From crying babies to potty training and toddler tantrums, many of us feel like we’re getting it ‘wrong’ and that we’re running out of patience. So it can help to think about how you approach certain situations and work out if there’s another way of handling things so that you and your little one both stay calmer and happier. Remember, there’s no right way of doing things and trying out different strategies can be helpful.
One of the best resolutions is to try not to be hard on yourself and appreciate all the amazing things you’re doing. Worry less about advice from other people and trust that you’re doing your very best for your child.
Check out our website for information on every aspect of pregnancy, birth and parenthood. We’re here with you every step of the way!
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