Why is it so important to act on cues from your baby? We look at how to create a warm and responsive environment for your child to thrive.
Many of the theories about parenting involve the idea of responsiveness. And this makes sense because just like adults respond to each other by chatting, you’re interacting in various ways with your child from day one. You interact through language and actions, and create a bond together. Ahhh.
Showing your child you understand their needs by being sensitive and responsive can shape the emotional relationship between you both.
Sensitivity as a parent means being able to respond to your child’s signals promptly and appropriately.
Being sensitive is associated with positive effects on children’s language and development
Being sensitive so you create a warm and supportive environment is associated with positive effects on children’s language and cognitive development during toddlerhood. It also has social benefits for them as they grow older.
Building a strong, trusting bond in this way is important too. It can give your child confidence in other social situations. And it can even pave the way for their independence and ability to form secure relationships as an adult.
But as your baby starts to interact more as they grow, the idea of facilitation can be a useful one to explore. We’ll explain…
Facilitation means helping a child to do something that they’re already doing or had signalled they wanted to do. Facilitation can help your child’s literacy skills, the start of developing stories and aid their comprehension.
Two useful ways of thinking about facilitation are:
It could be helpful to think about your interactions with your child, and try to make sure you’re creating an environment for ‘serves and returns’ (like a game of tennis) between the two of you.
• Try to guide them, tune in and interact with them during play.
• Say ‘yes’ in these play moments (with body language and words).
• Encourage your child’s initiatives.
• Try to be attentive (watching, waiting, wondering).
This approach can help them to verbalise and understand language and improve development for their age.
Another useful nugget of advice to keep in mind is to ‘strive for five’ in the conversations you have. When your toddler starts to chatter (or interact non-verbally), try to keep a conversation going for five back and forths. View it like a game of tennis.
It’s worth always remembering that as your baby grows, they are constantly learning about and experiencing new stuff. Part of this is them testing different boundaries and getting used to regulating their emotions.
Inevitably, there will be times when they can’t do what they want – eating the TV remote, for example – and this is when you can get the tantrums.
…is to help their little one understand that actions have consequences. The real job is doing it a positive way that reinforces feelings of love and respect but still gets the message across. See our articles on toddler tantrums and handling public tantrums for more tips.
We all want good relationships with our babies. From day one, they’re able to absorb your interest, care and attention. And by responding to their cues, you can help develop a happy, healthy bond between you. You could give these facilitation techniques a try if you like the sound of them.
For more ideas when it comes to all aspects of parenting, see our other articles on parenting styles, such as our one on the most popular styles and how to identify yours, through to how to raise my child to be happy, confident and considerate.
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You might find attending one of our Early Days groups helpful as they give you the opportunity to explore different approaches to important parenting issues with a qualified group leader and other new parents in your area.
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